Have you ever made choices in a fit of passion, acting on impulses and later facing the consequences? Have you ever wondered how your mistakes and their outcomes have guided you through situations, yet you haven’t prioritized changing your ways, even when given the chance?
My take on this tendency is that you adapt to absolutely everything in life — however good and bad. Even if you went through your worst nightmares, your subconscious mind will cling onto the very last bit of substance, comfort, or ecstasy it can find from the moment you open your eyes in the mornings to the moment you close them at night. We face this tendency often as we need to find stability in unfortunate situations. For example, we don’t always think before we speak, and we do act immaturely from time to time, bringing us to face the consequences. Most often, these immature acts are a result of emotional outbursts. On that note, without time, we wouldn’t be able to deal with the consequences because we need to calm down emotionally so we can assess the situation using logic. Could it be true time is what we need in order to re-visit the situation from a logical stand-point? Self-control is important, but we are only humans, and we do lead with passion sometimes. Just as we can lead with intuition. Everyone has a tender spot to them, and when someone pushes that button, many responds with passion. If we implement this theory into a family dynamic, empaths tend to struggle with this issue as they don’t want to hurt their loved ones. It is not necessarily because they quickly realize that they were wrong — instead, they are concerned about causing others sadness. And if they are too concerned about this, they might invalidate or fail to understand the reason behind their emotional outburst. If high empaths rush to redeem themselves as quickly as possible, would it be a valid tool for them to understand that time and transparency will lead them towards the best possible outcome, because time is growth and growth is change?
Now, we have established that it’s human to act from a state of passion, and that our subconscious mind maybe compensates for this tendency by using endorphins as a motivation to keep going.
Following this logic, people with the absence of empathy can live through their actions, however good or bad, as long as they choose to ignore them. Now, this is a daily lifestyle for people who deflect from their own wrongdoings. We like to call them narcissists. Following the perspective of a narcissist, their main driving force to stay alive stems from the biological response of our subconscious mind holding onto endorphins to preserve stability. They adapt, because they need to keep their hearts beating and their blood pumping. Because in the end, according to our nervous system, nothing else matters but the sole purpose of staying alive. But if we switch over into another lane, how would it all seem from the perspective of mental health? Or from the perspective of an empathetic person capable of regret? Could we thrive in a far right or far left existence, or in other words, could we find mental stability when ignoring the impact of our ways with other people, or when drowning in the realization your confrontation might be a burdon to other people? My answer is no. Just like everything else, having too much of something is to lead with emotion rather than logic, and it can very easily blindside you. And when we feel too strong of an emotion for too long, we can become numb which doesn’t work in our favor either. However, we’ll still be alive. Let’s take an example: Let’s say I went through hell and I had nothing left to live for, my nervous system would still, initially, respond independently from my emotional reaction. Take time out of this equation and it will trigger a panicky response, making me forget the purpose of being alive. However, add an infinite amount of time and we will learn to cope organically. Could it be true that time heals absolutely everything simply by your subconscious mind finding happiness in all the smaller things in life, paired with the understanding that time will continue its course, allowing you to find clarity?
It is interesting to speculate whether or not emotional stability is as important as our physical safety. Time is the only thing we need to preserve our sanity, whilst having no threat against our physical being is the only thing we need to keep breathing.
J. Doe's Corner 